I’ve heard it said that an emotionally neglected child doesn’t stop loving their parents. They stop loving themselves.
That’s why this section on reparenting is so essential. Because each of us has ways we’ve felt neglected or under-nurtured. Our parents are humans, after all. But when those wounds occur in childhood, we assume we’re the problem.
And we stop loving ourselves.
Until we gain the wisdom to reparent ourselves and break the cycle of generational trauma.
Read MoreWelcome to Zimmerman Podcast Episode 130: REPARENTING YOUR INNER CHILD: Compassion for Yourself and Those Who Raised You: Reparenting Your Inner Child
Read More“Daddy issues.”
We’ve all heard the term. When a woman finds herself in another relationship with a “deadbeat” guy, or a man keeps running into problems with the law, we tend to say they have “daddy issues.”
And while that might be an unfair stereotype, there is a reality to the impact of father wounds.
Read MoreToday we’re going to talk about mother wounds.
A mother’s presence is a powerful thing. It has the strength to uplift and inspire, and the potential to damage and disparage. Any kind of literal or emotional neglect can sow seeds in childhood that take all through adulthood to identify and root out. Like a weed left to grow for decades, it can grow as large as a tree.
Read MoreHow can we learn to hear, see, and heal the inner child in ourselves? The first step is to recognize what unmet needs look like when they’re ignored or unanswered for years, if not decades.
Because sometimes our most familiar patterns aren’t choices we’re making but habits we’re falling back into, and we must learn to differentiate between our intuition guiding us and our traumas– both big and small– misleading us.
Read MoreReparenting your inner child is one of the most powerful tools for healing we have in our toolbox. What do I mean by “reparenting?” What do I mean by “inner child?” Some of you may be familiar with these ideas, and some of you maybe not so much.
Read MoreUp to this point in this series of coming home to ourselves in The Path Back to You, each chapter has consisted of four parts, but as I began to write the next chapter, I realized I wanted to go a little deeper with this word, “should” and why we need to do our best to eliminate it from our vocabulary.
Read MoreAs we close out our chapter on removing shame and shedding limiting beliefs, we’ve gotta talk about triggers and glimmers.
We all know what triggers are. Trigger warning! Painful stuff is coming! Triggers are ways we respond– even in ways we can’t control– to things that bring up past pain. It’s a way our body remembers threats, to try to protect us.
Glimmers are similar, except instead of remembering pain, our bodies are remembering joy. They are welcoming back beauty and saying, I see you. I remember you.
The thing is, both triggers and glimmers are good things, because they act as arrows pointing to growth.
Read MoreHow am I still dealing with these same issues, I wondered. I thought I had looked through everything. I had peeled back layers. I had done some major healing. For a year.
And that’s when I woke up to the real cause– and purpose– of these wounded cycles we inflict upon ourselves.
Read MoreOften, a limiting belief isn’t something we even realize we agree with until we… stop believing in it. That’s what makes them so hard to identify! But typically these are beliefs we have about what leads to success, what’s going to get us a “good” life or make us a “good” person.
It’s like some sort of script we believe we have to stick to if we want the fairytale ending. And usually, we’re so young when we get handed this script that we don’t even have the tools to question whether it’s true or real or leading to any kind of happy ending that we actually want!
Let me give you an example…
Read MoreLike most women throughout history, but even specifically those growing up like I did, in the American south in the last half a century, showing any amount of skin was met with disapproving glares, gossipy whispers, and choruses of “bless her heart.”
Can you relate?
Read MoreOur bodies aren’t evil. They’re not bad. There’s a reason we’re not disembodied souls floating around a spirit world made of fog and twilight. But we’re often so busy telling our bodies what to be, what to do, and what to look like, that we forget to listen to their inherent wisdom.
Your mind will often lie to you about your body. But your body never lies.
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