Up to this point in this series of coming home to ourselves in The Path Back to You, each chapter has consisted of four parts, but as I began to write the next chapter, I realized I wanted to go a little deeper with this word, “should” and why we need to do our best to eliminate it from our vocabulary.
Read MoreAs we close out our chapter on removing shame and shedding limiting beliefs, we’ve gotta talk about triggers and glimmers.
We all know what triggers are. Trigger warning! Painful stuff is coming! Triggers are ways we respond– even in ways we can’t control– to things that bring up past pain. It’s a way our body remembers threats, to try to protect us.
Glimmers are similar, except instead of remembering pain, our bodies are remembering joy. They are welcoming back beauty and saying, I see you. I remember you.
The thing is, both triggers and glimmers are good things, because they act as arrows pointing to growth.
Read MoreHow am I still dealing with these same issues, I wondered. I thought I had looked through everything. I had peeled back layers. I had done some major healing. For a year.
And that’s when I woke up to the real cause– and purpose– of these wounded cycles we inflict upon ourselves.
Read MoreOften, a limiting belief isn’t something we even realize we agree with until we… stop believing in it. That’s what makes them so hard to identify! But typically these are beliefs we have about what leads to success, what’s going to get us a “good” life or make us a “good” person.
It’s like some sort of script we believe we have to stick to if we want the fairytale ending. And usually, we’re so young when we get handed this script that we don’t even have the tools to question whether it’s true or real or leading to any kind of happy ending that we actually want!
Let me give you an example…
Read MoreLike most women throughout history, but even specifically those growing up like I did, in the American south in the last half a century, showing any amount of skin was met with disapproving glares, gossipy whispers, and choruses of “bless her heart.”
Can you relate?
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